Child raising advice
how to teach your child independence, self sufficiency, and responsibilty. The end result will be a wellrounded child.
It is important to most parents to raise what they feel is a well rounded child. A child who will eventually become a self-sufficient adult. There are many ways to instill values of independence, and self-sufficiency in your child at a young age. These can be fantastic tools for raising a child that will look out for him or herself and be responsible for his or her own actions. The key to raising a well rounded child is to balance the parental input so that you are giving your child all he or she needs emotionally and physically, while at the same time showing your child that he or she can do a lot of things independently. It is never to early to start teaching your child a "can do" attitude.
* Give Your Child Responsibility: It is never too early to teach your child responsibility. Whether it be the job of picking up his or her own toys, helping with dishes, or helping take care of the family pet. Too many parents do everything for their children, thus instilling the idea at a early age that if they don’t do it, someone else will. This is a dangerous pattern to fall into if you want a well rounded child. Even a two year old can be put in charge of certain tasks. The mere act of being responsible for placing his or her shoes in a designated area when not wearing them, or hanging up the bath towel after a bath, can teach your child to put thought into his or her actions.
* Do Not Do What They Can Do: If your four year old says, "Mommy, go get my juice, it’s on the table" should you? No! Unless a child is ill and really is feeling so poorly that they should be made to rest as much as possible, this is a situation where you as a parent should say, "If you want your juice, it’s right over there". If you wait on your children hand and foot just because they are small they will come to expect it. If it is some task that they can quite obviously do for themselves—let them!
* Teach Your Children About Consequences: How many parents have you seen who threaten and threaten and never stick to the threats? Plenty. You may even be guilty yourself. However, if you threaten and then once a few tears are shed, cave in, you are teaching your child that there are no consequences for their actions. Stick to your guns, they will be better off in the long run. If they repeatedly do something they know is wrong and you threaten no cartoons after dinner, then make it no cartoons after dinner. Empty threats do nothing for the parent or the child.
* Set An Example: The greatest tool your child has to learn self sufficiency, independence and responsibility is by example. You are the best teacher your child has. This means that if you say you are going to do something you should try as hard as possible to live up to what you say. This sometimes means playing matchbox cars when you are tired, making a cake when you don’t feel like it, playing outside with your kids when you’d rather be reading the latest John Grisham novel. If you show your children that people should live up to their promises, they will keep that lesson for life.
It is important to most parents to raise what they feel is a well rounded child. A child who will eventually become a self-sufficient adult. There are many ways to instill values of independence, and self-sufficiency in your child at a young age. These can be fantastic tools for raising a child that will look out for him or herself and be responsible for his or her own actions. The key to raising a well rounded child is to balance the parental input so that you are giving your child all he or she needs emotionally and physically, while at the same time showing your child that he or she can do a lot of things independently. It is never to early to start teaching your child a "can do" attitude.
* Give Your Child Responsibility: It is never too early to teach your child responsibility. Whether it be the job of picking up his or her own toys, helping with dishes, or helping take care of the family pet. Too many parents do everything for their children, thus instilling the idea at a early age that if they don’t do it, someone else will. This is a dangerous pattern to fall into if you want a well rounded child. Even a two year old can be put in charge of certain tasks. The mere act of being responsible for placing his or her shoes in a designated area when not wearing them, or hanging up the bath towel after a bath, can teach your child to put thought into his or her actions.
* Do Not Do What They Can Do: If your four year old says, "Mommy, go get my juice, it’s on the table" should you? No! Unless a child is ill and really is feeling so poorly that they should be made to rest as much as possible, this is a situation where you as a parent should say, "If you want your juice, it’s right over there". If you wait on your children hand and foot just because they are small they will come to expect it. If it is some task that they can quite obviously do for themselves—let them!
* Teach Your Children About Consequences: How many parents have you seen who threaten and threaten and never stick to the threats? Plenty. You may even be guilty yourself. However, if you threaten and then once a few tears are shed, cave in, you are teaching your child that there are no consequences for their actions. Stick to your guns, they will be better off in the long run. If they repeatedly do something they know is wrong and you threaten no cartoons after dinner, then make it no cartoons after dinner. Empty threats do nothing for the parent or the child.
* Set An Example: The greatest tool your child has to learn self sufficiency, independence and responsibility is by example. You are the best teacher your child has. This means that if you say you are going to do something you should try as hard as possible to live up to what you say. This sometimes means playing matchbox cars when you are tired, making a cake when you don’t feel like it, playing outside with your kids when you’d rather be reading the latest John Grisham novel. If you show your children that people should live up to their promises, they will keep that lesson for life.
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